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When our experience, passion, and creativity “Come Together,”

ELF365 is the result.


Meet Carmen and Drew, a mother-son duo.  

Carmen's 20 years in social services, 15 of those in child advocacy working in conjunction with child protective services and the juvenile deprived court system, provided invaluable insight into children and families.  When her son, Drew, experienced bullying at just five years old, Carmen developed a passion for creating anti-bullying and kindness-driven activities, not only to empower Drew, but also to help the kids who were hurting him.  She knew the kids were acting this way because their hearts hurt.  Carmen encouraged Drew to approach the kids who were being mean to him and ask if they were OK, what was wrong/bothering them, and if he could help.  Drew mustered up the courage to reach out to the kids who were being mean to him.  The kids almost always ended up telling Drew what was bothering them and, in most cases, the kids became friends, or, at the very least, the bullying-type behaviors stopped.

That same year, in 2012, Carmen decided the family would hand out random acts of kindness at a Christmas festival.  Drew was an only child and grandchild plus, with all the hurt hearts Drew encountered, her goal was to continue to show Drew the incredible feeling you get from giving and being kind.  Drew took these acts of kindness to heart.  After the festival Drew began replicating many of the lessons on his own.  Carmen quickly realized the potential impact they could make if she could figure out a way to take the little acts of kindness and package them to share with other kids.  She excitedly started brainstorming ideas. By the following November Carmen created her first set of packaged acts of kindness lessons for Drew's first grade class.  The two continued these lessons with Drew's classes each year.  The kits resulted in many fun and meaningful conversations, memories and lessons.

Fast forward to 2017, Drew was now nine, the kids had gotten older, and the bullying had gotten worse. 


"I helplessly watched as my bright, happy and confident child started slipping away.  I saw warning signs for suicide.  I knew that kids as young as seven were taking their own lives, I’d seen it in my work, but for the first time ever I saw that possibility in my own home with my own child. No amount of experience and no words seemed to help, and hugs were only a very temporary band aid.  I felt helpless and terrified.  Not knowing what else to do, I asked Drew if he wanted to take our kindness efforts and go bigger and louder...and thankfully he agreed.

We started what is now ELF365, but at that time we called our outreach Come Together with Kindness.  Drew was the spokesperson.  We started reaching out to kids by sharing our kindness-centered kits, and anything else we could think of, to show kids how much better it feels to be kind. Plus, after seeing how much Drew was positively impacted by giving random acts of kindness, I wanted every child to have the opportunity to feel just how good it feels to give.  That's why every little lesson/Kit has always had an item to keep and an item to give.  The kids not only share the extra item, but also pass the lesson on, thus reaching at least one other child.  The part that I always fail to mention is the residual impact this has on adults.  The lessons I write can also serve as quick and gentle reminders for grown-ups!  There have been so many times, as I write the lessons for Kits, with what I believe is Divine guidance, that I realize, "Wow.  This is for me."  We can never have too much support to help us along the way as we journey through this life hoping to be the best version of our sELF.  And Drew's characters embody these lessons so well that I find myself empathizing with them and having such a sense of love and happiness seeing how they teach and overcome their issues.  It is no coincidence that our experiences and talents have led us here.  It is such a blessing to be able to create alongside Drew and share our stories in services to others."  ~Carmen

In 2021, hoping to reach more kids with a broader appeal, Carmen restructured the program around one of her favorite Kits, "Think Like an ELF."  She realized that the basis of the program truly is to help kids exemplify love and friendship.  The core message of ELF365 is love and acceptance of others, and equally important, love and acceptance of yourself...because Carmen understands that it is much easier to love and accept others if we love and accept ourselves first.  Carmen has written over 100 Kits for every season, including custom Kits for businesses and special events. 


In the spirit of Exemplifying Love and Friendship 365, Kits are now called, "ELFercises."

Why?  Because that is exactly what the Kits do! Kits use rhyming stories and relatable characters to help us learn and exercise self-love, empathy, kindness, sharing, acceptance and so much more.


It's now 2024, Drew is 16 and he and mom have pretty much found their niche.  Carmen is currently working on restructuring all of the Kits into books that feature more resources for parents and teachers. Drew continues in his role as the artist/illustrator for all things ELF365, assists with the creative processes, and is the creator of the ELF365 kids and logo, in addition to authoring and illustrating two of his very own children's books.   

ELF365 is excited to share affordable, meaningful and fun books and ELFercises to help you

and yours Exemplify Love and Friendship 365 days a year. 

Think like an ELF and be your best sELF 365!


ELF365 was created to help as many kids as possible.  This outreach business exists to help kids from all over the world ELF365.  (Yep, ELF365 is also a verb! )  That’s why proceeds from Kit and books sales help provide free ELFercise Kits for Kids.  Since 2017 over 12,500 free ELFercise Kits for Kids have been provided in 15 countries and 45 states…and counting!  

ELF365 CEO Carmen
Drew Young Artist Illustrator ELF365


ELF365 is all about kids helping kids! 

We believe kids are in the best position to 

help, influence and motivate other kids. 

Hoping to harness the overwhelming power of peer pressure

and use it for good,  ELF365 encourages kids to,

"Think like an ELF and be your best sELF," through ELFercises and story books.


ELF stands for Exemplify Love and Friendship. 

ELF365 gives kids easy, fun and memorable tools to help them become positive role models

who reach out to other kids using the following guidelines coupled with ELFercises.

ELF Code of Conduct

  1. I will try my best to be helpful.

  2. I will try my best to share my time and talents.

  3. I will try my best to be my best sELF 365 days a year.


ELF Declaration


No one is perfect.  We all have strengths and weaknesses.

We all make mistakes.  Mistakes become lessons.

We are always learning so we must always be kind.


ELF Mission Statement


We will do our best to Exemplify Love and Friendship

365 days a year.

You Mean ELF365 isn't for Christmas!?

Actually, ELF365 is perfect for Christmas, but there are ELFercises for every season and every reason, thus the 365 at the end of our name!  But, of course, we can't have ELF in our name and not have some meaningful holiday fun to share!  If you're interested in our holiday books and activities visit our Christmas holiday tab for more!

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Carmen Miller
Mom, Author and Visionary


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